if I’m being honest with you, I am so scared to ask for help. It’s an emotionally vulnerable position. In this particular instance, I worry about people screaming “go get another job if it’s that important to you” or just being general assholes and telling me something like “you don’t get to choose your gender.” The weed gave me the courage to sidestep those fears
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My old training as a life coach came in useful. I gave my son and his partner an exercise. I had them begin defining and articulating their Non-Negotiable Core Values.
Non-Negotiable Core Values are the things in your life that you will fight and die over. Beliefs about yourself, your family & friends, and your world that you will not compromise on under any circumstances.
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I’m trying to make peace with the fact that I’m going to be a mature woman only a few years after getting the body of a woman. I’ve wanted to feel pretty my entire life and, not long after feeling that way for the first time in my life, I feel like I’m losing it.
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“However, I experienced a ton of harassment in Plano. Early in my transition, I was shopping in East Plano and had an employee of the grocery store loudly say to every customer and coworker in earshot ‘you never know what’s down below.’”
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One of the more interesting things that has come out of my relationship so far is the realization that I’m the artsy fartsy one in the relationship. When I told my ex-wife that via text she responded “you’ve always been the artsy fartsy one.”
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Anne said, “thank you for letting me in.” I was confused because, well, I don’t consider myself a very closed-off person. If anything, I’m an open book that people want to close a little bit.
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I asked Anne what she meant and she said that I am “always on” when it comes to what’s known as passing. Passing is a slang term in the transgender community …
I feel like I’ve hit some kind of milestone in my transition. I’ve been getting a lot less “sir” and a lot more “ma’am” recently. Some of that is simply because I changed where I work to a more accepting part of the DFW metro and the other part is that being over two years on estrogen is really making a difference. Oh, and there’s the electrolysis and laser hair removal.
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It was a meandering conversation in the best way possible and David made it feel super casual while hitting all the topics he wanted to cover. It’s almost like he’s a national reporter for CBS or something. You can only cram so much into an hour and there were a few issues I wanted to explain more. So, let’s do it.
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I woke up the day of the interview with a migraine. I was nauseated, weak, and felt like someone was squeezing my left eyeball, which I thought was weird because my migraines always feel like that but on my right side of my head. I powered through the migraine, apologized for being sick, and warned the panel interviewing me that I might be off because of the headache.
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…when I started applying for promotions, I made the decision to do the entire process en femme. I wanted my potential bosses to see me and treat me as I am from day one. …
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