You will not compromise

My old training as a life coach came in useful. I gave my son and his partner an exercise. I had them begin defining and articulating their Non-Negotiable Core Values.

Non-Negotiable Core Values are the things in your life that you will fight and die over. Beliefs about yourself, your family & friends, and your world that you will not compromise on under any circumstances.

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Saying Yes More

I’m trying to make peace with the fact that I’m going to be a mature woman only a few years after getting the body of a woman. I’ve wanted to feel pretty my entire life and, not long after feeling that way for the first time in my life, I feel like I’m losing it.

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The Moment Was Perfect

Tiffani’s eyes got a little bigger. I kept going in my ad lib. I hadn’t prepared anything because I hadn’t planned this. It just … happened.

“I also know that you don’t want to get married again. And I’m okay with that. I don’t need the paper. Baby, this is a promise …

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Sometimes less is better

The final straw for me was the day I was eating a free taco while I hid my face behind my computer monitor and cried. I was completely overwhelmed with a simple job at a grocery store. My sleep was shit from the constantly changing shift times. I was going home angry with myself for snapping at my employees. My equipment was constantly breaking and we were throwing away thousands of dollars’ worth of cheese …

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Interview with TripAdvisor

I was interviewed for an article on Motherhood and Travel. Here’s the link. I know. Kinda weird, considering I don’t have ovaries to make an egg, a uterus to grow a human, or a vagina to vomit out said human. But, I mother the shit out of my three biological sons and my one son […]

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Those Three Years

“However, I experienced a ton of harassment in Plano. Early in my transition, I was shopping in East Plano and had an employee of the grocery store loudly say to every customer and coworker in earshot ‘you never know what’s down below.’”

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I Choose Comfort

I looked at her and said, “I’m fucking done with bras. My tits are small enough that I don’t need the support and the elastic in the chest strap is too damn tight. I’m only wearing them for special occasions and around my parents.”

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The Longest 18 Inches

I think the whole thing started the night before, when I had a random dream that my baby momma wanted to get back together… which meant I was still living as a man in my dream. I had a moment of panic and doubt the same way I did five years ago when my marriage ended… am I really transgender? Did I fuck everything up because I like thongs and having tits and sk8r girl outfits?

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