…As a former pastor and spiritual guide, my life has had a complete turnaround over the last decade. Conversations around my spirituality –which used to energize me– leave me empty now.
I’ve found that most people bring their agenda to my beliefs or lack thereof. My Christians friends want me to come back to the fold… just not in a dress.
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There’s really only been one thing that helps me get through this withdrawal -when I’m off the clock- and that’s marijuana. I’ve found it to be majestic in combating my anxiety, a balm for my depression, and a key to unlocking realizations about myself that have remained hidden for years.
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if I’m being honest with you, I am so scared to ask for help. It’s an emotionally vulnerable position. In this particular instance, I worry about people screaming “go get another job if it’s that important to you” or just being general assholes and telling me something like “you don’t get to choose your gender.” The weed gave me the courage to sidestep those fears
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My old training as a life coach came in useful. I gave my son and his partner an exercise. I had them begin defining and articulating their Non-Negotiable Core Values.
Non-Negotiable Core Values are the things in your life that you will fight and die over. Beliefs about yourself, your family & friends, and your world that you will not compromise on under any circumstances.
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I’m trying to make peace with the fact that I’m going to be a mature woman only a few years after getting the body of a woman. I’ve wanted to feel pretty my entire life and, not long after feeling that way for the first time in my life, I feel like I’m losing it.
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Tiffani’s eyes got a little bigger. I kept going in my ad lib. I hadn’t prepared anything because I hadn’t planned this. It just … happened.
“I also know that you don’t want to get married again. And I’m okay with that. I don’t need the paper. Baby, this is a promise …
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I was interviewed for an article on Motherhood and Travel. Here’s the link. I know. Kinda weird, considering I don’t have ovaries to make an egg, a uterus to grow a human, or a vagina to vomit out said human. But, I mother the shit out of my three biological sons and my one son […]
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“However, I experienced a ton of harassment in Plano. Early in my transition, I was shopping in East Plano and had an employee of the grocery store loudly say to every customer and coworker in earshot ‘you never know what’s down below.’”
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I looked at her and said, “I’m fucking done with bras. My tits are small enough that I don’t need the support and the elastic in the chest strap is too damn tight. I’m only wearing them for special occasions and around my parents.”
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One of the more interesting things that has come out of my relationship so far is the realization that I’m the artsy fartsy one in the relationship. When I told my ex-wife that via text she responded “you’ve always been the artsy fartsy one.”
Read more "I Love That About Myself"