You Have To Actually Ask

if I’m being honest with you, I am so scared to ask for help. It’s an emotionally vulnerable position. In this particular instance, I worry about people screaming “go get another job if it’s that important to you” or just being general assholes and telling me something like “you don’t get to choose your gender.” The weed gave me the courage to sidestep those fears

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Saying Yes More

I’m trying to make peace with the fact that I’m going to be a mature woman only a few years after getting the body of a woman. I’ve wanted to feel pretty my entire life and, not long after feeling that way for the first time in my life, I feel like I’m losing it.

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The Moment Was Perfect

Tiffani’s eyes got a little bigger. I kept going in my ad lib. I hadn’t prepared anything because I hadn’t planned this. It just … happened.

“I also know that you don’t want to get married again. And I’m okay with that. I don’t need the paper. Baby, this is a promise …

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Interview with TripAdvisor

I was interviewed for an article on Motherhood and Travel. Here’s the link. I know. Kinda weird, considering I don’t have ovaries to make an egg, a uterus to grow a human, or a vagina to vomit out said human. But, I mother the shit out of my three biological sons and my one son […]

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Those Three Years

“However, I experienced a ton of harassment in Plano. Early in my transition, I was shopping in East Plano and had an employee of the grocery store loudly say to every customer and coworker in earshot ‘you never know what’s down below.’”

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I Choose Comfort

I looked at her and said, “I’m fucking done with bras. My tits are small enough that I don’t need the support and the elastic in the chest strap is too damn tight. I’m only wearing them for special occasions and around my parents.”

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What We Have to Do

Anne said, “thank you for letting me in.” I was confused because, well, I don’t consider myself a very closed-off person. If anything, I’m an open book that people want to close a little bit.
I asked Anne what she meant and she said that I am “always on” when it comes to what’s known as passing. Passing is a slang term in the transgender community …

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Some Kind of Milestone

I feel like I’ve hit some kind of milestone in my transition. I’ve been getting a lot less “sir” and a lot more “ma’am” recently. Some of that is simply because I changed where I work to a more accepting part of the DFW metro and the other part is that being over two years on estrogen is really making a difference. Oh, and there’s the electrolysis and laser hair removal.

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Let’s Follow Up

It was a meandering conversation in the best way possible and David made it feel super casual while hitting all the topics he wanted to cover. It’s almost like he’s a national reporter for CBS or something. You can only cram so much into an hour and there were a few issues I wanted to explain more. So, let’s do it.

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