if I’m being honest with you, I am so scared to ask for help. It’s an emotionally vulnerable position. In this particular instance, I worry about people screaming “go get another job if it’s that important to you” or just being general assholes and telling me something like “you don’t get to choose your gender.” The weed gave me the courage to sidestep those fears
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I’m trying to make peace with the fact that I’m going to be a mature woman only a few years after getting the body of a woman. I’ve wanted to feel pretty my entire life and, not long after feeling that way for the first time in my life, I feel like I’m losing it.
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Tiffani’s eyes got a little bigger. I kept going in my ad lib. I hadn’t prepared anything because I hadn’t planned this. It just … happened.
“I also know that you don’t want to get married again. And I’m okay with that. I don’t need the paper. Baby, this is a promise …
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“However, I experienced a ton of harassment in Plano. Early in my transition, I was shopping in East Plano and had an employee of the grocery store loudly say to every customer and coworker in earshot ‘you never know what’s down below.’”
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One of the more interesting things that has come out of my relationship so far is the realization that I’m the artsy fartsy one in the relationship. When I told my ex-wife that via text she responded “you’ve always been the artsy fartsy one.”
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I feel like I’ve hit some kind of milestone in my transition. I’ve been getting a lot less “sir” and a lot more “ma’am” recently. Some of that is simply because I changed where I work to a more accepting part of the DFW metro and the other part is that being over two years on estrogen is really making a difference. Oh, and there’s the electrolysis and laser hair removal.
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I went something like a month without any dating apps on my phone. It was a relief to not spend my free time swiping through potential candidates for The Dating Game. My friend, Lindsey –the premier bachelorette in Lafayette, LA– downloaded a dating app in February and I downloaded the same one. I also downloaded […]
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At one point I said something in French and K said, “Ooooo. Don’t do that again or else” and she smiled and covered her face. I told her that I’d changed my mind about what I was willing to do that night and spoke some more French to her. Sometimes it pays to be Cajun.
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The part that makes me most sad is that the people in your communities that most need to hear what I have to say dismissed me a long time ago. That’s part of the problem with the way you handled me when you found out I was transgender… you cut me off, ostracized me, and threw the one bible verse related to gender expression in my face.
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Is this a cautionary tale of a Christian who gave themselves over to sin? Is my life proof that god is as angry and vindictive as so many of you fear that he is?
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Is this yet another story of a repressed member of the LGBTQ community imploding in true Drama Queen fashion before they explode out of their closet in an orgasm of glitter and perfectly tweezed eyebrows?
Is this the story of a selfish asshole?
Is this the story of a flawed human?
How the hell should I know and why are you asking me for your answers?